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I finished The End is Now by Rob Stennett. Here is my review.

I am starting Shopping for Time: How to do it All and Not be Overwhelmed by Carolyn Mahaney and Nature’s End by Whitley Strieber.

Okay, except for the most extreme anti-nomians, the answer to the above is obviously yes. A Christian can’t be a drug dealer, a stripper, or a hitman. I think that is fairly obvious. But I am referring to “respectable” professions. Are there jobs that a Christian can not have? Or if they have, they have to conduct themselves much differently than their peers? I think the answer to this is also yes. And yes, I do have an agenda in asking this question.

I was at a Christian event last night, and who the heck did I see? My husband’s divorce attorney. Now, I know he claimed Christianity, but you know that means practically nothing today in isolation. But now I know a bit more about his church background in that this particular group is made of very solid Bible-believing conservative Christians.

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The Judgment was entered today. And I remained pure and did not commit adultery. EVER. He did. If I stumble in this regard from this day forward, it will be a sin against my own body and against God, but not against him. I was faithful from the day we were a couple until the day of our divorce. God will judge between he and me on this. I doubt that his post-separation adultery was the only time. You don’t make the kind of paranoid accusations he did unless you had something on your own conscience. I was stupid and didn’t believe that before. The only other option (if he wasn’t making bizarre accusations out of a guilty conscience) is that he has a sociopathic streak. I prefer to think it was the age-old case of a guilty conscience. Yes I am angry. I am very angry. I invested my life in this man. I had a right to expect and demand better. I know the Proverbs tell us that this side of heaven the scales may be unbalanced, but it will kill me if he prospers after doing such evil, but I know it happens. Temporal and carnal prosperity is nothing in the face of eternity and hearing, “Well done, my good and faithful Servant.” But that doesn’t mean that I am superhuman so that it doesn’t bother and anger me. I am deeply and hotly angry.

I gave my two weeks’ notice today. I cried. I have been there a long time, and it is hard to leave. But right now, I needed to. It is on very good terms and well wishes. I am changing a great deal of what reminds me of my old life, and this was one. Plus, I have an offer from a place which I think is a much better match. It isn’t doing exactly what I do now, and that is a good thing. I also changed my phone number. I need to make this separation from old to new clean. Though my ex hasn’t called me since early February, as far as I can see from the Court docket, he is still facing trouble for beating up his girlfriend, and he is tempted to call me in drunken fits when upset, so I don’t want him to have the number. And for me as well. It would be a lie to say that I don’t want to talk to him. I would be a cold-hearted unnatural woman if I didn’t. I don’t want to hurt my heart further. I have a new life and a new novio. Both deserve me to make this break clean. I can free myself from ever wondering if he will call me. He can’t. Though if he ever wanted to repent, he knows how he could reach me through Church channels, so I am not making that impossible for him. This is sad but necessary. I really would like to move out of Florida, but it looks like I am staying put here.

I finished The Sisters Who Would Be Queen: Mary, Katherine, and Lady Jane Grey: A Tudor Tragedy. Here is my review.

I finished The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks. Here is my review.

I have a few more in the works.

Enjoy!

The overdraft fees that I am being charged by SunTrust are outrageous. Here is a complaint I filed today with the Federal Reserve against SunTrust (forgive the crappy formatting, this is the way the summary printout they give you looks):

Description of the complaint
I am charged excessive overdraft fees and given the run around on a cash deposit. Yesterday I had four items overdrawn even though there was a pending CASH deposit that would cover three of them. For four items I was charged $288 in fees. When in truth only one items was a legitimate overdraft. The bank agreed to waive $72 as a “courtesy.” I don’t understand how they can charge so much in fees, and I get a song and a dance. For four items, I should be charged $32×4 for a total of $128. How they nearly double that is robbery. In actuality, I should only be paying $32.00 as there was cash pending to cover three out of the four.

How complaint can be satisfactorily addressed
All but $32.00 of those fees needs to be refunded. Further, SunTrust should be prohibited from charged exorbitant and extortionary fees.

I will be somewhat on hiatus unless something that is terribly important happens as I try to get my creative blog up and running at Carynification. If you are interested in any of the subjects there, please support my work and comment. The store is still in the works, I am waiting to afford to get a premium cart program, but that is soon.

I have reached a settlement with my husband. Hopefully this now marks a radical shift in the subject matter of the blog. I have met a really nice Christian guy that adores me, and I am pursuing that relationship in complete freedom at this point. While my marriage was over once he committed adultery, it is still nice to have legal part over. I STILL have not carnal knowledge of anyone else unlike my husband who committed adultery. He could have chosen to wait and be upfront with me that he was interested sexually in another. He could have kept his pants on until he was legally free to be engaged to/marry someone else. For whatever small satisfaction it gives me, I waited. And I don’t pretend it was easy. I do not intend upon remaining single. I am suited for married life, and my current relationship includes a desire to start a late-in-life family. If it is God’s will, it will happen. I am at the end of any possible child-bearing years, so it will definitely be an act of God if it does happen, but I am ready to be a mother. I was never so certain before. We shall see.

I still believe in marriage, and I still believe in love. I never, ever, ever wanted to be divorced. I trusted him, and I was betrayed. I will trust again. It is what it means to be a fully functioning human.

Don’t get me wrong, I am not a fan of Al Gore whatsoever. I am a big fan of romance and marriage, so I was very sad to read that Al and Tipper Gore have announced their separation after forty years of marriage.

http://michellemalkin.com/2010/06/01/al-and-tipper-gore-to-separate/

And am disgusted at the opportunistic way Michelle Makin treated this. I normally enjoy reading Michelle, but this time she gets a big fat raspberry, and for a conservative, who is a champion of traditional family values, she ought to be ashamed of herself. Do families only matter when they are conservative families? Bzzzt.

I decided I am going to keep it. I love the name; it resonates with me. I have sooo many sites though I had to decide what the role of this blog would be in relation to my other sites. Particularly as I am kicking off a new site, www.carynification.com. THAT was going to be my personal rambling site, but also where I kept links to the patterns I am selling on my etsy store… and then I got to thinking that mixing the crafty business side with everything else might not work out. So I am still working out the precise separation of the subjects of this and that blog–as there will be a creative overlap–but I think it will be productive. This blog will be more for friends, people who care about me. The other will be more for people interested in fun and creativity. Whether they like me or not or even know a thing about me will be besides the point. Of course blogs and sites evolve, but that is my thoughts. Since this will now evolve into more than just documenting my divorce and experiences with domestic abuse, I will invest more time into customizing and put up a premium theme. I like the concept of the “birds” theme, so I think I will take that image and put it into the Thesis theme that I own. Or perhaps the Cosmopolitan theme if it is out yet as I understand my license for Thesis entitles me to a free copy of Cosmopolitan when it is released. I will have to check that out.

Like my other blogs, I actually wouldn’t mind having co-authors here documenting the trials of life from a Christian perspective.

Disclaimer for nosy divorce attorneys: I have yet to break even at all with the patterns. This is a business that is still simply a hope and a dream and not a reality. It may never make money. If I can sell a few patterns to simply set off the costs of my sewing hobby I will be happy.